People are going to tell you terrible things. You will never shower again! You will never poop alone! Sleep will become a distant memory in the hazy caffeine tides of your life! However, they have an ironclad solution to all this nonsense. You will listen as they share it with all the fervency of a newly minted cult member. This makes being a new mom even harder. Suddenly, there are rules. You must obey the rules—or you will break the baby.

Take a deep breath; you will not break the baby. At this moment of doubt and panic, you don’t need more parenting advice. You’ve sifted through a Google’s worth of parenting advice. What you need is to take it easy on yourself and to remember that you are allowed to…

1. Feel scared, sad, and angry.

Sappy cards will call your child a “bundle of joy.” Newsflash: Your baby is a small human, not a gift bag of premium coffee. People will say they never knew love before seeing their newborn. But some moms feel apathy instead. Some become overwhelmed by their sudden and irreversible life change. Some doubt they made the right decision about this whole parenting thing. Some feel all these things. None mean you love your baby less. You can love them desperately, want them desperately, and still wish you could run away. These are not mutually exclusive, and you are not a bad person. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling—without the guilt trip. You don’t deserve that.

2. Ignore parenting gurus.

The world demands you pick a parenting philosophy as if you were writing a corporate mission statement instead of keeping a human happy. These philosophies come with rules. Did you sign up for a new religion? No? Then play cafeteria: Pick what seems good and leave the rest. Dr. Sears does not know your baby. I used to run a babywearing group, and some babies hated to be worn. Dr. Ferber also does not know your baby; my kids would’ve lost their minds if I left them to cry. Take what works. Ditch the rest.

3. Ignore absolutes.

One bottle will not give your baby nipple confusion. Crying for two minutes will not lead to attachment issues. Wearing your baby will not spoil them. Ignore the all-or-nothing stuff. Take a deep breath. Does it sound extreme? It probably is.

4. Trust your instincts.

You know your baby best. If something feels wrong, it’s probably wrong; if something feels right, it’s likely right. You have common sense. Listen to it and your gut. Does your baby kick and scream when they’re swaddled? Maybe you shouldn’t swaddle them, even if conventional wisdom says you should. Does your baby vomit and scream after every meal? Maybe you’re right about that infant reflux thing. Always pay attention to your intuition.

5. Go full mama bear.

If a stranger touches your baby, you don’t have to smile. You can say, “Don’t touch my child.” If your pediatrician won’t believe that your baby’s ill, you can say, “We need to reevaluate this.” If your mother insists on using a bottle and you prefer breast, you can say, “No, this is what works for us, thanks.” Having a baby gives you permission, more than ever before, to stand up for yourself—and it’s easier because you’re standing up for a person you love. Be rude if you need to. Your baby is more important than someone else’s feelings.

6. Do “nothing.”

Who decided we should bring home a squally, inscrutable human being without language capabilities… and then clean the house in our “downtime”? Were they male? Severe amnesiacs? Sadists? Mom, park yourself on the couch and do nothing. Watch those TV shows you’re ashamed of. Drink tea. Wear a fancy robe. Your job is momming: You do not clean the house.

You may find this difficult. Lean on the authority of your tea and fancy robe. Seriously—they project devil-may-care noblesse oblige. You’ll feel fancy, and you’ll feel powerful, and you’ll remember: All humans are not the same; therefore, all babies are not the same. What worked for one person may not work for you. All those you-shoulds and you-have-tos should come with big asterisks: I don’t know you, your baby, or your life situation. What I’m about to say is conditional on many things, and you should probably ignore most of it anyway.

You have permission to ignore all advice. You have permission to take a deep breath and chill out. You have permission to ugly-cry. You have permission to sleep and shower as you see fit. New parenting is hard enough. Don’t make it harder by stuffing down your feelings or obeying rules that feel wrong. Trust yourself. You’ve got this.

According to a 2023 Pew Research study, 62% of parents say the job has been at least somewhat harder than expected, and 26% say it has been a lot harder. Mothers had higher rates of thinking it was harder than planned than fathers did. Yet most of us (96%) feel like we are doing a good job or even a very good or excellent job. So here’s to chugging along, making it work, enjoying the tiny, hysterical, sleep-deprived moments, and raising our babies. We’ve become new people along this journey, thanks to the unexpected things we never thought we’d do but would do all over again.

1. Sway at all times and even rock the grocery cart.

When you’ve got a new baby, rocking and swaying are the status quo, whether you’re frantically pushing the stroller back and forth to get your tiny human to sleep at the mall or trying to get them to stop wailing in the middle of the night. My body was in near-constant motion until I passed out in yesterday’s clothes at the end of each day. But I never expected to find myself rocking my hips back and forth while whipping up a sandwich for lunch or rocking the cart at the grocery store with no kid in sight. Yup, this is the new normal. Wonder how long it’ll last. (Spoiler: years.)

Related: The Weirdest Permanent Body Changes after Pregnancy

2. Clean a pacifier that fell on the floor with your own mouth.

So your kid is screaming at the mall. At the store. At playgroup. And your only paci hits the floor—nipple down, of course, because that’s how it goes. In the absence of a sink, you stare at the baby, debating what nasty disease you are going to get, then say screw it and pop it in your mouth, and back into the baby’s. No? Just me? Well, that’s embarrassing…

3. Store leftovers in your pockets.

Once, I found a half-eaten cheeseburger in my pocket. I’m embarrassed to say I have no idea how long it was there. Hopefully only a few hours. This is because eating a sit-down meal as a new parent is virtually impossible. So, we hover around the counter, shoveling in food when there’s hot food to be found because another tiny, whining bundle of joy comes first. We eat while we are feeding the baby, while we are driving, and pretty much any other time we can. And when there’s no Ziploc to save our food, apparently we make do.

4. Fish a potato (or other insane object) out of the crib.

Why, oh why, was there a raw potato in my crib? Parents of a toddler and a baby might be able to relate. Maybe the toddler thought the baby was hungry? Maybe he thought it was a ball? Not sure I even want to know.

5. Take a bit of time to fall in love with the baby.

Diaper commercials would have us think that birthing a baby is followed immediately by love at first sight, an instant bond, a magical moment that we will remember forever. But research shows about 1 in 5 parents actually don’t feel that immediate bond in the hours after birth, and that’s totally okay. It makes sense—you’re exhausted from an often difficult delivery, you’re learning brand new responsibilities to keep this other human alive, and it’s just not always instant.

Note: if that feeling keeps going, check in with your healthcare provider, as it can also be a sign of postpartum mental health concerns.

6. Change a diaper on a truck tailgate.

Parents find creative places to change their babies, from the floor of an airplane aisle to the bed of a truck. This is partially not our fault—many bathrooms are still poorly equipped to accommodate parents (especially dads) and babies. But it’s also just convenient. It’s kind of hard to take a baby to a park and make it all happen with a bathroom that’s a mile away.

7. Fake sickness because parenthood is just too tiring.

Can’t make it to a party? A girls’ night? An evening work function? Of course, many a mom has blamed the baby—“Oh sorry, the baby’s coming down with something.” Then, it’s off to early bedtime and a hot shower, because momming is just too tiring sometimes. If you feel lame for not going out, then so are all of us. We need a break.

8. Leave home half-dressed.

The new parenting days, which we’ve always referred to as the “fog,” mean that your standards go down—and then down again. Basically, you have none. So, if you’ve headed to the grocery without a bra or gone through the carline at your other kid’s school in your pajamas and slippers, you are us. We are you. And that’s normal.

9. Gone down a terrifying Dr. Google research hole at 4 a.m.

Nothing good happens at 4 a.m., especially on Google. But, we’ve all decided at one time or another that our baby’s rash is rabies or that a spot on his face is cancer. Of course, our go-to pediatrician is used to those early morning MyChart messages, right? Luckily, we are usually just completely sleep-deprived and totally wrong, but it’s one of many things that will keep us up at night because of how much we love our kids.

Related: 11 Things Parents Don’t Need to Stress About (According to Doctors)

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What is a nesting party?

Think of a nesting party as a baby shower’s low-key cousin, designed to help moms-to-be tackle some of the items on the long list of to-dos before baby arrives—while making them a whole lot easier (and more fun!) to check off. While expectant moms walk away from their baby showers with armloads of gifts from their registries (all of which still need to be cleaned, folded, assembled, and/or organized), this is more of a preparation party focused on simplifying life and getting ready for the whirlwind ahead. It’s about making the home cozy, preparing essentials, gaining insight and advice, and filling their freezer with easy meals they’ll love in those hazy first few weeks postpartum.

The term was coined in 2021 when one very happy mom-to-be took to Instagram to share her gratitude and spread the word. Dietitian and lactation consultant Allegra Gast asked some friends to come help her nest, and it’s no wonder the post went viral as fellow parents took to the comments to celebrate her genius! “I cannot thank these friends enough for helping me on their Saturday to get the nursery put together, my nursing station, my bathroom essentials, meal prepping, and helping me make little toy baggies to cycle around to keep my toddler entertained and just providing me with that support and encouragement,” she said. Because more than any toy or gadget or tiny little outfit, this is what pregnant people need!

How to throw a nesting party

The great thing about a nesting party is that you don’t need a fancy venue or elaborate decorations. Instead, create a laid-back, welcoming environment that prioritizes support and relaxation.

Keep it small and cozy

Think quality over quantity. Your nesting party should be filled with the people you trust most—the ones you’ll actually call when you need a hand (or a snack) in those early days. Invite friends and family who love a hands-on project and keep the vibe relaxed. After all, the goal is a stress-free, low-key gathering that leaves you feeling more prepared and less overwhelmed.

Delegate tasks

Whether you’re throwing the party for yourself or hosting for a bestie, sister, or anyone else, make sure the help actually helps. Create a list of what the parents-to-be want and need, then build the party around that. If freezer meals are the priority, set up a meal-prep station so guests can stockpile ready-to-go dinners. If cleaning and organizing are the focus, write out tasks on note cards so guests can grab one and get to work—no awkward “How can I help?” moments necessary.

Assemble and organize

Baby things can be a challenge to assemble, and even when they’re easy, it’s the last thing you want to have to do when you’re heavily pregnant or in the throes of newborn life. So help your parents-to-be get their gear assembled and organized well in advance. This could mean building the crib, washing and folding baby clothes, putting together diaper or postpartum stations for every floor, assembling the activity center and play gym (how cute is the Ocean Easy-Fold Play Gym by Melissa & Doug?!), or making sure there are a few developmental toys stashed away in different rooms to whip out when needed (hello, Melissa & Doug Flip Fish).

Trade over-the-top games for activities that are helpful and enjoyable

Set up a “words of wisdom” station where guests can share their best parenting advice (or funniest parenting fails). Create a DIY baby-care kit station with essentials like diapers and wipes so guests can assemble something useful. If you want a little friendly competition, try a lighthearted guessing game—like predicting the baby’s birth date or future personality traits. The goal? A fun, relaxed vibe with zero pressure.

Keep the food and drink easy

Pull together a DIY snack station with everything from fruit platters to veggie wraps—easy to eat with no fuss. This way, guests can grab something when it’s convenient for them, and there’s no pressure for everyone to eat at the same time.

Go-to recipes for freezer meals

Any postpartum mom will tell you that the last thing they want to consider is what’s for dinner. That’s where freezer meals come in as a game-changer for nesting parties. Stocking their freezer with ready-to-go meals for the weeks—or even months—after baby arrives is an absolute lifesaver. To make it easy for guests to contribute, we’ve rounded up some favorite freezer-friendly recipes to keep the new parents well-fed while focusing on their little one.

Soups & stews

Instant Pot Beef Stew
Chicken and Rice Soup
Cheesy Chili

Casseroles and pasta bakes

Chicken Pot Pie
Dump-and-Bake Chicken and Vegetable Casserole
Make-Ahead Baked Ravioli
Make-Ahead Spaghetti
White Chicken Enchiladas Casserole

Stir fry

Chicken Teriyaki Stir Fry
Shrimp Stir Fry
Homemade Freezer Stir Fry

Crockpot meals

Maple Pulled Pork
Slow-Cooker Buffalo Chicken
Slow-Cooker Sweet & Sour Pot Roast
Ginger-Turmeric Chicken Soup

For even more ideas, check out these instant-pot freezer recipes.

Don’t forget about digital nesting

A nesting party isn’t just about physical prep—it’s also about sharing advice and talking through major concerns and decisions. One item that’s good to have on the agenda is preparing for baby’s digital future. We’re talking about “Digital Nesting,” the practice of establishing digital boundaries and safety measures that protect a kiddo’s digital footprint.

Here are a few ways to weave digital nesting into your party:

• Have a chat
  Set aside time for a relaxed chat where parents-to-be think about their digital boundaries. Guests can offer tips or share their own experiences, helping to get the expectant parents on the same page before baby arrives.
• Digital nesting workbook
  Create a fun workbook for guests to fill out, covering social media boundaries, photo-sharing rules, and digital privacy preferences. By the end of the party, the parents will have a handy guide to help navigate their baby’s online presence.
• Advice cards
  Set up a station where guests jot down anything they’ve learned along the way, whether it’s their favorite safety resources or tips on online privacy. Collect the cards as a guide to help parents make informed decisions about sharing baby photos and maintaining privacy.

Ultimately, nesting parties are a way to help take away some of the stress of having a baby rather than add to it with a big fancy party. This trend is all about rolling up your sleeves and getting down to business—organizing, prepping, washing, folding, cooking, and, of course, having fun with the people who’ll be there when the real work begins. It’s not just about the baby—it’s about setting the stage for a smooth transition into parenthood with some help from your friends (and a freezer full of meals). No wonder more parents are jumping on the nesting party bandwagon; it’s the “baby prep” trend that actually makes sense.

Hannah, a mom on TikTok, shared this hack in a viral video, explaining how the practice “saved” her mental health.

@hannahsandsmusic

100/10 would do this mum hack again, especially around the 5 month mark where life is just ramping up and theyre developing so much and you are just SO TIRED. Postpartum is HARD, and we’re just doing our best as new mums but this seriously saved my mental health in motherhood some days! #newmumtips #mumhack #motherhoodhack #momhack #mumsoftiktok #motherhood #firsttimemum #mummentalhealth

♬ original sound – Hannah Sands

“This was way before I was willing to send my son to daycare—as a first-time mom that just terrified me—but we were out of the newborn bubble, and I was just f*cking exhausted,” she explained. “I just needed a break sometimes, like an hour.”

If that isn’t relatable to postpartum moms, I don’t know what is.

Hannah continued, “I had never even heard of a creche—first-time mom things.”

Now, Hannah is clearly not from the U.S., and you may not have heard of a creche either, since that’s not a super common term here. But basically, it’s free or low-cost childcare at places like schools, churches, or stores. Or, in Hannah’s case, at the gym.

“I found a gym right near our house that was beautiful. It had a pool, a sauna, and a creche,” she said. “Now, this isn’t another story about exercising and postpartum and bouncing back, because we are not about that. We signed up on a trial, and I can take my baby there every day for up to two hours… and I wouldn’t even work out. Sometimes I would just go sit at the coffee shop and have a coffee and stare into the abyss. Sometimes I could swim or have a sauna. Sometimes I’d walk on the treadmill. Sometimes I would work out.”

The important thing, Hannah pointed out, was that she got two hours per day to herself while her baby was being cared for. She could do whatever self-care felt right during that time. And the kicker? The creche cost her $8 per week.

In the U.S., you may not find a “creche” per se, but you can still find gyms that offer childcare to their members. And while you’ll still need to pay the cost of the gym membership, if it has the right amenities for the self-care you need during your postpartum journey, it’s probably worth it.

1. Pregnancy pillow. It’s one of those items you may have felt frivolous buying for yourself, but trust us, it’s worth every extra hour of sleep you’ll receive.

2. Gift certificates for a local baby store. Sometimes doing the shopping yourself is the fun part: browsing through a store and marveling at the teeny tiny booties, adorable newborn outfits, and sweet nursery accents.

3. House cleaning service (before or after the baby comes). This is possibly one of the most useful baby shower gifts anyone can give. As a new parent, not only will you crave a clean home, but with a newborn around, you’ll be sleep-deprived and short on time.

4. Contribution to a doula service. If you are dreaming of a doula birth but can’t afford it, this is one way to get the birth you really want.

5. Hiring a photographer for baby pictures. This is a gift you’ll cherish forever.

6. Personalized new mom note cards. When you meet the first nice mom at mom and baby yoga, you’ll be grateful that it’s easy to keep in touch. Swapping numbers in your phones isn’t always so easy when you’re running off with a hungry newborn.

7. A subscription to Tinybeans. As new parents, there’s nothing like a secure and private way to share memories with family and friends. Your Tinybeans+ subscription includes unlimited photo and video uploads, 200GB of storage, and more—plus it’ll get all those eager relatives begging for updates off your back.

8. Paying for someone to give a CPR and infant first aid class. You’ll rest easier knowing you have these skills just in case.

9. Prenatal or postnatal massage. Be specific about the spa and/or masseuse you prefer because you deserve it.

10. Gift certificate for a pedicure. Your feet could use the extra massage right now, and you can’t see your toes for a DIY pedicure anyway.

11. Date night certificate. Do you feel like you’ll never leave the house after the baby? You’ll have extra motivation if you’ve got a free dinner for two and babysitting booked before they arrive.

12. Shower saver kit. This tongue-in-cheek gift gives a nod to the fact that finding time for a shower after baby isn’t always easy, but this clever gift grouping will make it doable: a clear plastic shower curtain, bath accessories for mom, and a bouncy seat for baby.

13. Cloth diaper service or a supply of disposable diapers. If there’s one thing you know your baby will use, it’s diapers!

14. Emergency diaper kit to leave in the car. This clever and ever-useful wet bag should include diapers, wipes, plastic baggies, and a clean change of clothes.

15. Meals for a month. Having someone organize a meal train of family and friends to provide dinners several days a week, or being gifted a meal delivery service for a month is priceless.

16. Favorite children’s books. Start building your baby’s library from day one. Classic children’s books like these will be treasured forever.

17. Uh-oh kit. This is an easy way to ensure you’re stocked with the necessary first aid supplies including a thermometer, gas tablets, teething tablets, baby pain reliever, nail clippers, diaper rash cream, etc.

18. Handmade hats or blankets. If you’ve got relatives or friends who knit, hint that handmade is appreciated.

19. Nursing pillow. If you overlooked this on your registry—don’t. It’s good for breastfeeding and bottle-feeding moms, and these pillows can be a great spot to prop your baby.

That’s where Momcozy’s 5.5-inch, full HD video baby monitor (or the BM03, for short) comes in. Rather than sacrificing those precious moments of sleep you so desperately need, you can check in on your little one from any room in your house with its crystal-clear video, ultra-long connection range, and top-of-the-line features.

To help you start breathing a little easier—and give yourself a break from sneaking into the nursery every few minutes!—we’ve broken down seven of the most important details you need to know about this game-changing non-WiFi baby monitor.

1. You’ll have a clear, crisp, and fully HD view of your baby.

If you’re a natural worrier (aren’t we all at first?!), the BM03 will give you the comfort of being able to see your baby clearly, whether they’re napping, playing, or finally drifting off to sleep. With its 1080P resolution (meaning it’s fully HD) and large 5.5-inch screen, you’ll always get a sharp, detailed, and uninterrupted view of your little one. Toss in some serious night vision capabilities and you’ll be able to see your babe and their surroundings perfectly, up to eight meters and even in total darkness (just how babies like it).

2. You can keep your baby comforted yet comfortable.

A comfortable baby is a happy baby, and the new Momcozy baby monitor helps you give your infant an environment that’s just right. Eight built-in lullabies can help soothe them without you even having to step foot in their room (oh happy day!). And if you’re unsure if the nursery is too warm or too cold, the BM03’s temperature alert system will remove all the guesswork by prompting you when it strays from your preset range.

3. Say hello to an ultra-strong signal (sans WiFi!)

Why does the WiFi always seem to cut out at the most inconvenient times? Luckily, with the Momcozy baby monitor, that’s never a problem. This monitor doesn’t need WiFi, so you don’t have to worry about the strength of your home internet or potential security risks (no hacking here!). It offers a strong, reliable connection of up to 1640 feet—even through two concrete walls—so you can move freely around your home while staying connected.

4. It has enough battery juice to last up to 120 hours without a charge.

Those first few months of newborndom are downright exhausting, and the last thing you need to add to your plate is trying to remember to recharge your baby monitor. Thankfully, the BM03 comes with an impressive battery life of up to 120 hours when on ECO Mode. In short, it means the monitor will keep an eye on your baby for days on a single charge. That’s one less thing to worry about.

5. Did we mention you can talk to your baby from anywhere?

6. You can record (and keep!) sweet moments.

One of the most special features of the Momcozy BM03 is its ability to help you capture memories and moments that might otherwise be missed. The motion-activated, video recording automatically tapes a one-minute video whenever it detects your baby’s movement—and let’s you snap a photo with the click of a button (don’t forget to share your favorites on Tinybeans!). But what really makes this baby monitor stand out from the pack is an SD card that stores those precious memories for you to look back on when you’re already feeling nostalgic in a couple of months.

7. It’s a great travel companion, too.

Whether you’re always on the go, tackling your first family vacay, or just dropping baby at Grandma’s for date night, the Momcozy BM03 should top your packing list. Since it doesn’t rely on WiFi, you won’t have to stress about finding a stable connection wherever you go. Thanks to its ultra-long battery life, a single charge can last up to five days in ECO Mode, which is perfect for weekend getaways. And when it’s time to pack up, the compact and lightweight design makes it easy to stow away in your luggage.

The Momcozy BM03 has everything you need to feel confident and calm during those wild early months, whether you’re at home or on the go!

The best postpartum foods to eat are ones that provide essential nutrients to support your recovery. Not only do they nourish and give you energy, but they also offer ample calories to keep you satiated between newborn feeds (and cuddles). As a dietitian, I recommend these 7 foods to support new moms and help them feel their best.

1. Salmon

Salmon is a top pick because it’s packed with omega-3s to help reduce inflammation, and lean protein to assist in repairing stretched and torn tissues. When you’re in a pinch, try roasting it with garlic salt, pepper, and a drizzle of olive oil. Or whip up some quick salmon rice bowls by baking it with teriyaki sauce, sesame oil, and fresh garlic. If you have an air-fryer, try this drool-worthy salmon bites recipe (the cook time is less than 10 minutes!).

Related: 13 Salmon Recipes Perfect for Weeknight Dinners

Plant-based sources of omega-3s include chia seeds, flaxseeds, hemp seeds, and walnuts. If you follow a vegetarian diet, consider sprinkling chia and hemp seeds on cottage cheese, using ground flaxseed as a substitute for eggs in baked goods, or tossing walnuts into salads or pasta dishes.

2. Oats

Make carbs count with oats, which are loaded with protein, fiber, and iron. Keep it simple with stovetop oatmeal or overnight oats, and if you’re feeling creative, try oatmeal muffins or chunky monkey banana bread, which both freeze well too. Plus, while research is still limited, oats can potentially increase milk supply, which can be a lifesaver for breastfeeding moms.

3. Nuts and nut butter

When you’re running on fumes from caring for your newborn, spending hours in the kitchen is likely the last thing on your mind. Nuts are the ultimate no-fuss power snack, packed with healthy fats and protein. Plus, they’re calorie-dense, and postpartum moms need those extra calories to support recovery. Slather peanut butter on toast, dunk apple slices in creamy almond butter, or toss a handful of nuts into a salad for a satisfying crunch. If you’re craving some comfort food, incorporate nuts into dishes like Thai peanut curry and cashew chicken, or use this peanut butter sauce as a marinade for proteins, a salad dressing, or a dipping sauce for spring rolls. 

4. Beef

Whether you prefer ground beef, skirt steak, or brisket, they’re all fantastic sources of iron which helps replenish blood loss from labor. My fave method for cooking beef is using the Crock-Pot or slow cooker—just toss it in, forget about it, and it’s ready for dinner. Try making beef stew, spaghetti bolognese, or this easy slow-cooker brisket recipe, which are all nutrient-rich options that require minimal effort. 

If you’re looking for vegan foods that are iron-rich, add beans, lentils, tofu, and quinoa into your meals. I love this simple slow-cooker Mediterranean lentil stew and this stir-fry recipe that includes both tofu and quinoa.

5. Eggs

Not only are eggs one of the most affordable animal proteins, but they’re also among the quickest to prepare. They’re rich in protein, vitamin D for immune support, and choline which supports brain development in breastfed babies. Enjoy them hard-boiled, scrambled, or poached, or incorporate them into dishes like veggie fried rice or Middle-Eastern shakshuka.

Looking for quick-to-prepare plant-based proteins? Try edamame, lentil pasta, tempeh, or crispy chickpeas.

6. Avocado 

With a whopping 10 grams of fiber per cup and loads of magnesium, avocados are an essential food when you’re dealing with postpartum constipation. Both fiber and magnesium promote regular bowel movements, offering gentle relief during this phase. Blend avocados into smoothies for an extra creamy texture, dip some veggies guacamole or avocado salsa, or snack on some avocado chocolate mousse for a delicious treat.

7. Greek yogurt

I’m a big fan of Greek yogurt because it’s packed with protein and serves as an excellent source of calcium, which is crucial for replenishing lost stores during pregnancy and maintaining strong bones. Opt for unsweetened varieties, and if you’re craving a touch of sweetness you can always add a drizzle of honey or maple syrup. For a quick and delicious breakfast option, throw together a breakfast parfait with alternating layers of Greek yogurt, berries, and granola. And if you find yourself with some extra time between naps, experiment with recipes like a berry yogurt bake or this creamy Caesar salad-dressing alternative. 

And then there’s the added concern of whether you even chose the right one. Am I getting the most possible milk? Is it comfortable? Can I get things done while I pump? Am I getting the most bang for my buck?

As an expectant mom wading into this unchartered territory for the first time (and feeling just as lost!), I set out to find the best wearable breast pump to keep up with my soon-to-be-much-busier lifestyle.

As I dove into my research, one name kept popping up: the Willow Go. Friends, mom groups, and tons of TikToks raved about how it stood out from the pack, so I decided to find out whether it lives up to the hype.

Here’s what I found:

You’ll have the freedom & flexibility to go about your day.

With the Willow Go, say goodbye to cords, tubing, and those dangling bottles that’ll really make you feel like you’re running a milk factory. One of its most appealing features is how truly wearable and hands-free it is.

As someone who works from home, I love the idea of being able to pop them into my bra and move around the house as I please—without being glued to a power outlet. From what I hear, every minute counts for newborn parents, so if I can knock out a couple of household chores when I have downtime (or just trudge to and from the fridge while watching Netflix) I’m all for the freedom.

It’s easy to set up & use.

The Willow Go is equipped with some user-friendly features that make pumping a breeze, especially for us newbies who have no idea what we’re getting ourselves into. The breast pump automatically turns off after 25 minutes (just in case you forget to time it yourself) and features a handy battery life indicator with green, orange, and red colors to show you how much juice is left. Even if you forget to charge it fully, a quick ten-minute boost can give you at least one pump session, which is a lifesaver on hectic days.

Using the Willow Go is also super intuitive. You’ll be able to power it on and off, toggle between stimulation and expression modes, and adjust your suction levels with four easy-to-follow buttons on the pump and also through the companion app. The best part? Unlike many other wearable pumps on the market and electric options, you can individually control each pump and keep track of your session history.

It has plenty of settings that provide more comfort & milk output.

Speaking of different suction settings, the Willow Go really caters to mom’s pumping needs by offering six stimulation levels and nine expression levels. The stimulation mode mimics a baby’s speedy suckling to help initiate milk flow and make the pumping process more comfortable. Then once you’re ready, you can switch to expression mode for longer, stronger pulls that’ll maximize your milk output.

This range can help you find the most comfortable and effective setting during your sessions, especially while you’re still getting the hang of pumping and figuring out what works best for you.

You don’t have to stress about finding your perfect flange size.

More often than not, pumping moms are using the wrong flange size—so much so that one lactation consultant found this to be true in over 90% of her patients (yikes!). Fortunately, the Willow Go is ahead of the game and includes both 21 mm and 24 mm flanges and a flange sizing guide within your kit, so you can easily find your perfect match. This can make all the difference in your comfort, the amount of milk you’re able to pump, and protecting yourself from any potential damage to your breast tissue or nipples.

And if those sizes don’t quite fit, don’t worry! Willow offers even more size inserts, including 13mm, 15mm, 17mm, and 19mm, so you can find the perfect fit. If you happen to misplace the handy chart, Willow has a free backup version online. And if you’re still feeling confused, their solid customer care team can assist with sizing, assembly, and any other questions you might have.

It’s comfortable & discrete.

Willow Go promises that it can fully fit in your bra, but I had a hard time believing it, despite all those TikToks of women pumping at concerts, on airplanes, and in the car. But man was I pleasantly surprised. The sound is much quieter than I expected and its sleek shape fits so naturally against your breast. Since the motor doesn’t stick out the top, I was super confident that I wouldn’t attract any unwanted attention.

Although you don’t need a special bra to hold these pumps in place, I found that a stretchy nursing bra was best. My sports bra and Skims spandex bra were good backups, but I’d need to size up from my pre-pregnancy collection to avoid irritation. Bonus: my boobs looked fuller than ever (cheapest breast enhancement you could ask for!).

It’s accompanied by all the pumping accessories you’ll need when you’re on the go.

Because the Willow Go is wearable and totally hands-free, you can wear it practically anywhere—and you don’t have to worry about the aftermath either. Accessories like the Portable Breast Milk Cooler, Pump Anywhere travel case, and the Travel Cleaning Pack make it simple to pump and store milk when you’re out and about, whether you’re visiting the grandparents or running errands.

Willow’s Find Your Flow Feeding Kit is another game-changing essential for those early days of pumping and feeding. It provides essential products for tackling common breastfeeding challenges, from reusable breast pads to hot and cold breast therapy pads, and comes with free access to a lactation consultation.

But it does require your time for cleaning.

Now, the not-so-fun part: cleaning. The Willow Go has five of its six parts that need regular cleaning—the flanges, the pump diaphragm, the container bowl that holds the milk, the container backing, and the duckbill valve. This can be a bit of a task when you already have a counter full of bottles that need your attention.

The upside is that you can toss all these parts into the top rack of the dishwasher, but if you prefer to wash by hand, it can be a time-consuming process to do every day.

Also, if you’re hoping to cut down on your process by leaning on a steam sterilizer, unfortunately the Willow Go recommends against it, so all parts must be air-dried instead in order to reuse.

The price tag may give you sticker shock.

The Willow Go comes with a hefty price tag—at $349, it can feel like a significant investment. That being said, it’s available as an upgrade option through insurance (with most saving up to 40%!), which can help offset some of the costs. But what really makes Willow worth it is their personalized onboarding process with a Willow Mom Coach that every purchaser receives. For moms just learning the ropes, this guidance and support can really help you get the most out of your pump.

Replacement parts are another consideration, as some moms have reported them frequently being out of stock, but I didn’t encounter this issue.

And there are a few practical things to consider.

While the Willow Go is designed with convenience in mind, there are some practical considerations. It’s not leak-proof due to the opening spout at the top, so you’ll need to be mindful of certain movements—like bending over to pick something up or laying down—to avoid spilling that precious liquid gold. Additionally, since you can’t pump directly into bottles or bags, you’ll have to transfer milk into a storage container after pumping, adding an extra step to the process.

So do the pros outweigh the cons, like all those TikTok moms claim? I’d say yes. The Willow Go breast pump offers plenty of freedom and convenience with features that make sense. Toss in its user-friendly design, on-the-go accessories, and supportive customer care team, and it’s a worthwhile consideration. If you’re a busy mom looking for a hands-free pumping experience, the Willow Go is a top-notch option that’ll make getting through those chaotic days a bit more manageable.

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Of course, anything you see on this list (or any others, really) shouldn’t be taken as medical advice. Always run things by your healthcare provider if you have any questions. That said, these postpartum goodies are some of the most tried-and-true out there. From nursing camis that save you some laundry time to cooling pads that soothe your healing body and everything in between, we’ve put together our faves for keeping comfortable, managing pain, taking care of yourself, and even staying organized while you get to know your newest family member. (There are even some great gifts for new moms on this list, so if you’re looking for products to really help out the new mom in your life, we’ve got you covered!).

Frida Mom Instant Ice Maxi Pads

Looking for some major relief? These 2-in-1 cooling and absorbent maxi pads are made with witch hazel (no funky chemicals here) and instantly cool and soothe sensitive bodies following delivery. They're full-coverage, too, to minimize leaks!

Frida Mom Instant Ice Maxi Pads ($18.97)—Buy Here!

Elvie Stride Plus Hands-Free Breast Pump

Hospital-grade performance (a whopping -300 mmHg!) with a hands-free, in-bra design that lets you go anywhere while pumping makes the Elvie Stride a super popular choice among pumping moms. The Stride Plus, includes a 3-in-1 carrying case for moms on the go (aren't we all?).

Elvie Stride Plus Hands-Free Breast Pump ($223.99)—Buy Here!

"The Fourth Trimester" by Kimberly Ann Johnson

Take a deep dive into postpartum care with The Fourth Trimester. This book covers healing on the physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual levels from Kimberly Ann Johnson—doula, postpartum consultant, yoga teacher, body worker, and women’s health care advocate.

"The Fourth Trimester" by Kimberly Ann Johnson ($10.99)—Buy Here!

Thena Sitz Bath Soak

Extra-soothing and can help speed up recovery, this sitz bath soak is extra-gentle. Made with organic coconut oil, organic sweet almond oil, therapeutic lavender, and grapefruit essential oils to deeply hydrate while the fine-grain salt dissolves extra fast so you don't have to wait to relax.

Thena Sitz Bath Soak ($27.59)—Buy Here!

Hydrating Mom Fuel Electrolyte Drink Mix

Listen, new moms. It's vital that you stay hydrated. Of course, that's always true, but it's especially easy to forget when you're nursing, running on less sleep, and healing from labor and delivery. Mom Fuel is formulated for moms, it's caffiene-free and includes lactation support, all in an on-the-go packet. Mix it with a little extra water if you prefer a milder flavor.

Hydrating Mom Fuel Electrolyte Drink Mix ($14.99)—Buy Here!

Bodily Care for Birth Box

Bodily really knocked it out of the park with this box. In collaboration with OB-GYNs, midwives, and lactation experts, the Care for Birth Box is full of 23 must-have products to help support you through the first days, with goodies you'll want to use even after you've recovered.

Bodily Care for Birth Box ($84.00)—Buy Here!

Lansinoh Pain Relief Spray

This 4% lidocaine spray works upside down (genius) and takes the edge off perineal pain. It also includes witch hazel and aloe vera.

Lansinoh Pain Relief Spray ($9.99)—Buy Here!

The Poppy Diaper Purse

The Poppy Diaper Purse is a modern and minimalist take on the diaper bag. It replaces the bulky and big diaper bags that can be a huge pain and instead, includes a mini diaper bag with a dual-purpose design. Divided into two sections, the Poppy has a dedicated baby diaper compartment and a personal purse compartment, too. Multiple zippered and open pocket options, including an elastic pocket for baby wipes! Available in 4 colors, and fun straps (sold separately) to customize yours.

The Poppy Diaper Purse ($160.00)—Buy here!

Daily Harvest New Parent Support Bundle

The New Parent Support Bundle from Daily Harvest helps new moms get all the nutrients they need to support lactation, postpartum healing, and recovery with this selection of ready-to-heat meals curated by the experts at Marma Health. Includes:

• 2 Mango + Greens Smoothies
• 2 Cherry + Almond Smoothies
• 2 Blueberry + Cacao Smoothies
• 2 Cinnamon + Banana Breakfast Bowls
• 2 Blueberry + Lemon Breakfast Bowls
• 2 Red Lentil + Cumin Harvest Bowls
• 2 Hazelnut + Chocolate Bites

Daily Harvest New Parent Support Bundle ($119.99)—Buy Here!

Portable Bidet

If you want, or need, to leave the house during your postpartum recovery, your healing regimen still can't take a backseat. This handy little portable bidet doesn't look like one, but works to effectively keep your postpartum hygiene in check no matter where you are. They also made sure the design mitigates leaks, because that's pretty much the last thing you need right now.

Portable Bidet ($13.99)—Buy Here!

nyssa Fourthwear Postpartum Recovery Underwear

Super soft, belly hugging (read: supportive!) underwear with a dual-layer, 360° pocket design to securely hold ice or heat therapy between the legs, at the site of c-section, and around the back where postpartum recovering bodies need it most. Available in multiple sizes and bundle options (remember what we said about laundry?).

nyssa Fourthwear Postpartum Recovery Underwear ($39.00+)—Buy Here!

Postpartum Wrap

The name of the postpartum game is 'Support' (both physically and mentally), so having a compression wrap like this one on-hand is a great idea. You can adjust it to the level you prefer and wearing a wrap can help speed up your healing!

Postpartum Wrap ($24.97+)—Buy Here!

Mila's Keeper Breastmilk Storage Bundle

For pumping moms on the go, this bundle from Mila's Keeper is perfect. It includes one breastmilk cooler, a glass breastmilk storage bottle, and one ice pack that that fits perfectly in the cooler.

Mila's Keeper Breastmilk Storage Bundle ($68.00)—Buy Here!

Cotton Skin to Skin Top

A cute, comfy top that's perfect for skin-to-skin time with your new addition, hands-free while sitting or reclining. It's super soft and available in 6 colors. Note: This is a garment, not a baby carrier or sling. Always keep hold of baby while standing or moving around.

Cotton Skin to Skin Top ($59.00+)—Buy Here!

Mother Self Care Bundle

This bundle includes five soothing treatments made with clean ingredients: magnesium oil, magnesium soak, body oil, balm, and an aromatherapy inhaler, all tucked into a cute pouch.

Mother Self Care Bundle ($120.00)—Buy Here!

Charcoal Donut Pillow

Back relief, hemorrhoid relief, and reduced perineum pressure are all in the cards when you have a solid donut pillow.

Charcoal Donut Pillow ($34.99)—Buy Here!

Shapermint Essentials Embrace Maternity Collection

For every stage of motherhood, this size-inclusive collection (S-4XL) covers every body. The Embrace Collection keeps moms comfortable and supported from pregnancy into postpartum. Includes a wire-free nursing bra, clip-down nursing cami, belly support shorts, and belly support leggings. 

Shapermint Essentials Embrace Maternity Collection ($25.99+)—Buy Here!

Frida Mom Witch Hazel Perineal Cooling Pad Liners

Witch hazel is the hero product of postpartum recovery, and these cooling liners cover most maxi pads to reduce swelling and speed up healing.

Frida Mom Witch Hazel Perineal Cooling Pad Liners ($8.79)—Buy Here!

Maternity Hospital Bag Bundle

A super-soft, easy-fit pajama top with lift up nursing access, a comfy over bump pajama bottoms with a tapered leg, a maternity and nursing nightie with snaps at the front for easy nursing and skin-to-skin snuggles, and a cozy matching robe to keep you warm, covered up when you want to be, and excellent for busy hospitals or at home when you have visitors. 

Maternity Hospital Bag Bundle ($159.00)—Buy Here!

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