People are going to tell you terrible things. You will never shower again! You will never poop alone! Sleep will become a distant memory in the hazy caffeine tides of your life! However, they have an ironclad solution to all this nonsense. You will listen as they share it with all the fervency of a newly minted cult member. This makes being a new mom even harder. Suddenly, there are rules. You must obey the rules—or you will break the baby.

Take a deep breath; you will not break the baby. At this moment of doubt and panic, you don’t need more parenting advice. You’ve sifted through a Google’s worth of parenting advice. What you need is to take it easy on yourself and to remember that you are allowed to…

1. Feel scared, sad, and angry.

Sappy cards will call your child a “bundle of joy.” Newsflash: Your baby is a small human, not a gift bag of premium coffee. People will say they never knew love before seeing their newborn. But some moms feel apathy instead. Some become overwhelmed by their sudden and irreversible life change. Some doubt they made the right decision about this whole parenting thing. Some feel all these things. None mean you love your baby less. You can love them desperately, want them desperately, and still wish you could run away. These are not mutually exclusive, and you are not a bad person. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling—without the guilt trip. You don’t deserve that.

2. Ignore parenting gurus.

The world demands you pick a parenting philosophy as if you were writing a corporate mission statement instead of keeping a human happy. These philosophies come with rules. Did you sign up for a new religion? No? Then play cafeteria: Pick what seems good and leave the rest. Dr. Sears does not know your baby. I used to run a babywearing group, and some babies hated to be worn. Dr. Ferber also does not know your baby; my kids would’ve lost their minds if I left them to cry. Take what works. Ditch the rest.

3. Ignore absolutes.

One bottle will not give your baby nipple confusion. Crying for two minutes will not lead to attachment issues. Wearing your baby will not spoil them. Ignore the all-or-nothing stuff. Take a deep breath. Does it sound extreme? It probably is.

4. Trust your instincts.

You know your baby best. If something feels wrong, it’s probably wrong; if something feels right, it’s likely right. You have common sense. Listen to it and your gut. Does your baby kick and scream when they’re swaddled? Maybe you shouldn’t swaddle them, even if conventional wisdom says you should. Does your baby vomit and scream after every meal? Maybe you’re right about that infant reflux thing. Always pay attention to your intuition.

5. Go full mama bear.

If a stranger touches your baby, you don’t have to smile. You can say, “Don’t touch my child.” If your pediatrician won’t believe that your baby’s ill, you can say, “We need to reevaluate this.” If your mother insists on using a bottle and you prefer breast, you can say, “No, this is what works for us, thanks.” Having a baby gives you permission, more than ever before, to stand up for yourself—and it’s easier because you’re standing up for a person you love. Be rude if you need to. Your baby is more important than someone else’s feelings.

6. Do “nothing.”

Who decided we should bring home a squally, inscrutable human being without language capabilities… and then clean the house in our “downtime”? Were they male? Severe amnesiacs? Sadists? Mom, park yourself on the couch and do nothing. Watch those TV shows you’re ashamed of. Drink tea. Wear a fancy robe. Your job is momming: You do not clean the house.

You may find this difficult. Lean on the authority of your tea and fancy robe. Seriously—they project devil-may-care noblesse oblige. You’ll feel fancy, and you’ll feel powerful, and you’ll remember: All humans are not the same; therefore, all babies are not the same. What worked for one person may not work for you. All those you-shoulds and you-have-tos should come with big asterisks: I don’t know you, your baby, or your life situation. What I’m about to say is conditional on many things, and you should probably ignore most of it anyway.

You have permission to ignore all advice. You have permission to take a deep breath and chill out. You have permission to ugly-cry. You have permission to sleep and shower as you see fit. New parenting is hard enough. Don’t make it harder by stuffing down your feelings or obeying rules that feel wrong. Trust yourself. You’ve got this.

According to a 2023 Pew Research study, 62% of parents say the job has been at least somewhat harder than expected, and 26% say it has been a lot harder. Mothers had higher rates of thinking it was harder than planned than fathers did. Yet most of us (96%) feel like we are doing a good job or even a very good or excellent job. So here’s to chugging along, making it work, enjoying the tiny, hysterical, sleep-deprived moments, and raising our babies. We’ve become new people along this journey, thanks to the unexpected things we never thought we’d do but would do all over again.

1. Sway at all times and even rock the grocery cart.

When you’ve got a new baby, rocking and swaying are the status quo, whether you’re frantically pushing the stroller back and forth to get your tiny human to sleep at the mall or trying to get them to stop wailing in the middle of the night. My body was in near-constant motion until I passed out in yesterday’s clothes at the end of each day. But I never expected to find myself rocking my hips back and forth while whipping up a sandwich for lunch or rocking the cart at the grocery store with no kid in sight. Yup, this is the new normal. Wonder how long it’ll last. (Spoiler: years.)

Related: The Weirdest Permanent Body Changes after Pregnancy

2. Clean a pacifier that fell on the floor with your own mouth.

So your kid is screaming at the mall. At the store. At playgroup. And your only paci hits the floor—nipple down, of course, because that’s how it goes. In the absence of a sink, you stare at the baby, debating what nasty disease you are going to get, then say screw it and pop it in your mouth, and back into the baby’s. No? Just me? Well, that’s embarrassing…

3. Store leftovers in your pockets.

Once, I found a half-eaten cheeseburger in my pocket. I’m embarrassed to say I have no idea how long it was there. Hopefully only a few hours. This is because eating a sit-down meal as a new parent is virtually impossible. So, we hover around the counter, shoveling in food when there’s hot food to be found because another tiny, whining bundle of joy comes first. We eat while we are feeding the baby, while we are driving, and pretty much any other time we can. And when there’s no Ziploc to save our food, apparently we make do.

4. Fish a potato (or other insane object) out of the crib.

Why, oh why, was there a raw potato in my crib? Parents of a toddler and a baby might be able to relate. Maybe the toddler thought the baby was hungry? Maybe he thought it was a ball? Not sure I even want to know.

5. Take a bit of time to fall in love with the baby.

Diaper commercials would have us think that birthing a baby is followed immediately by love at first sight, an instant bond, a magical moment that we will remember forever. But research shows about 1 in 5 parents actually don’t feel that immediate bond in the hours after birth, and that’s totally okay. It makes sense—you’re exhausted from an often difficult delivery, you’re learning brand new responsibilities to keep this other human alive, and it’s just not always instant.

Note: if that feeling keeps going, check in with your healthcare provider, as it can also be a sign of postpartum mental health concerns.

6. Change a diaper on a truck tailgate.

Parents find creative places to change their babies, from the floor of an airplane aisle to the bed of a truck. This is partially not our fault—many bathrooms are still poorly equipped to accommodate parents (especially dads) and babies. But it’s also just convenient. It’s kind of hard to take a baby to a park and make it all happen with a bathroom that’s a mile away.

7. Fake sickness because parenthood is just too tiring.

Can’t make it to a party? A girls’ night? An evening work function? Of course, many a mom has blamed the baby—“Oh sorry, the baby’s coming down with something.” Then, it’s off to early bedtime and a hot shower, because momming is just too tiring sometimes. If you feel lame for not going out, then so are all of us. We need a break.

8. Leave home half-dressed.

The new parenting days, which we’ve always referred to as the “fog,” mean that your standards go down—and then down again. Basically, you have none. So, if you’ve headed to the grocery without a bra or gone through the carline at your other kid’s school in your pajamas and slippers, you are us. We are you. And that’s normal.

9. Gone down a terrifying Dr. Google research hole at 4 a.m.

Nothing good happens at 4 a.m., especially on Google. But, we’ve all decided at one time or another that our baby’s rash is rabies or that a spot on his face is cancer. Of course, our go-to pediatrician is used to those early morning MyChart messages, right? Luckily, we are usually just completely sleep-deprived and totally wrong, but it’s one of many things that will keep us up at night because of how much we love our kids.

Related: 11 Things Parents Don’t Need to Stress About (According to Doctors)

Hannah, a mom on TikTok, shared this hack in a viral video, explaining how the practice “saved” her mental health.

@hannahsandsmusic

100/10 would do this mum hack again, especially around the 5 month mark where life is just ramping up and theyre developing so much and you are just SO TIRED. Postpartum is HARD, and we’re just doing our best as new mums but this seriously saved my mental health in motherhood some days! #newmumtips #mumhack #motherhoodhack #momhack #mumsoftiktok #motherhood #firsttimemum #mummentalhealth

♬ original sound – Hannah Sands

“This was way before I was willing to send my son to daycare—as a first-time mom that just terrified me—but we were out of the newborn bubble, and I was just f*cking exhausted,” she explained. “I just needed a break sometimes, like an hour.”

If that isn’t relatable to postpartum moms, I don’t know what is.

Hannah continued, “I had never even heard of a creche—first-time mom things.”

Now, Hannah is clearly not from the U.S., and you may not have heard of a creche either, since that’s not a super common term here. But basically, it’s free or low-cost childcare at places like schools, churches, or stores. Or, in Hannah’s case, at the gym.

“I found a gym right near our house that was beautiful. It had a pool, a sauna, and a creche,” she said. “Now, this isn’t another story about exercising and postpartum and bouncing back, because we are not about that. We signed up on a trial, and I can take my baby there every day for up to two hours… and I wouldn’t even work out. Sometimes I would just go sit at the coffee shop and have a coffee and stare into the abyss. Sometimes I could swim or have a sauna. Sometimes I’d walk on the treadmill. Sometimes I would work out.”

The important thing, Hannah pointed out, was that she got two hours per day to herself while her baby was being cared for. She could do whatever self-care felt right during that time. And the kicker? The creche cost her $8 per week.

In the U.S., you may not find a “creche” per se, but you can still find gyms that offer childcare to their members. And while you’ll still need to pay the cost of the gym membership, if it has the right amenities for the self-care you need during your postpartum journey, it’s probably worth it.

The best postpartum foods to eat are ones that provide essential nutrients to support your recovery. Not only do they nourish and give you energy, but they also offer ample calories to keep you satiated between newborn feeds (and cuddles). As a dietitian, I recommend these 7 foods to support new moms and help them feel their best.

1. Salmon

Salmon is a top pick because it’s packed with omega-3s to help reduce inflammation, and lean protein to assist in repairing stretched and torn tissues. When you’re in a pinch, try roasting it with garlic salt, pepper, and a drizzle of olive oil. Or whip up some quick salmon rice bowls by baking it with teriyaki sauce, sesame oil, and fresh garlic. If you have an air-fryer, try this drool-worthy salmon bites recipe (the cook time is less than 10 minutes!).

Related: 13 Salmon Recipes Perfect for Weeknight Dinners

Plant-based sources of omega-3s include chia seeds, flaxseeds, hemp seeds, and walnuts. If you follow a vegetarian diet, consider sprinkling chia and hemp seeds on cottage cheese, using ground flaxseed as a substitute for eggs in baked goods, or tossing walnuts into salads or pasta dishes.

2. Oats

Make carbs count with oats, which are loaded with protein, fiber, and iron. Keep it simple with stovetop oatmeal or overnight oats, and if you’re feeling creative, try oatmeal muffins or chunky monkey banana bread, which both freeze well too. Plus, while research is still limited, oats can potentially increase milk supply, which can be a lifesaver for breastfeeding moms.

3. Nuts and nut butter

When you’re running on fumes from caring for your newborn, spending hours in the kitchen is likely the last thing on your mind. Nuts are the ultimate no-fuss power snack, packed with healthy fats and protein. Plus, they’re calorie-dense, and postpartum moms need those extra calories to support recovery. Slather peanut butter on toast, dunk apple slices in creamy almond butter, or toss a handful of nuts into a salad for a satisfying crunch. If you’re craving some comfort food, incorporate nuts into dishes like Thai peanut curry and cashew chicken, or use this peanut butter sauce as a marinade for proteins, a salad dressing, or a dipping sauce for spring rolls. 

4. Beef

Whether you prefer ground beef, skirt steak, or brisket, they’re all fantastic sources of iron which helps replenish blood loss from labor. My fave method for cooking beef is using the Crock-Pot or slow cooker—just toss it in, forget about it, and it’s ready for dinner. Try making beef stew, spaghetti bolognese, or this easy slow-cooker brisket recipe, which are all nutrient-rich options that require minimal effort. 

If you’re looking for vegan foods that are iron-rich, add beans, lentils, tofu, and quinoa into your meals. I love this simple slow-cooker Mediterranean lentil stew and this stir-fry recipe that includes both tofu and quinoa.

5. Eggs

Not only are eggs one of the most affordable animal proteins, but they’re also among the quickest to prepare. They’re rich in protein, vitamin D for immune support, and choline which supports brain development in breastfed babies. Enjoy them hard-boiled, scrambled, or poached, or incorporate them into dishes like veggie fried rice or Middle-Eastern shakshuka.

Looking for quick-to-prepare plant-based proteins? Try edamame, lentil pasta, tempeh, or crispy chickpeas.

6. Avocado 

With a whopping 10 grams of fiber per cup and loads of magnesium, avocados are an essential food when you’re dealing with postpartum constipation. Both fiber and magnesium promote regular bowel movements, offering gentle relief during this phase. Blend avocados into smoothies for an extra creamy texture, dip some veggies guacamole or avocado salsa, or snack on some avocado chocolate mousse for a delicious treat.

7. Greek yogurt

I’m a big fan of Greek yogurt because it’s packed with protein and serves as an excellent source of calcium, which is crucial for replenishing lost stores during pregnancy and maintaining strong bones. Opt for unsweetened varieties, and if you’re craving a touch of sweetness you can always add a drizzle of honey or maple syrup. For a quick and delicious breakfast option, throw together a breakfast parfait with alternating layers of Greek yogurt, berries, and granola. And if you find yourself with some extra time between naps, experiment with recipes like a berry yogurt bake or this creamy Caesar salad-dressing alternative. 

And then there’s the added concern of whether you even chose the right one. Am I getting the most possible milk? Is it comfortable? Can I get things done while I pump? Am I getting the most bang for my buck?

As an expectant mom wading into this unchartered territory for the first time (and feeling just as lost!), I set out to find the best wearable breast pump to keep up with my soon-to-be-much-busier lifestyle.

As I dove into my research, one name kept popping up: the Willow Go. Friends, mom groups, and tons of TikToks raved about how it stood out from the pack, so I decided to find out whether it lives up to the hype.

Here’s what I found:

You’ll have the freedom & flexibility to go about your day.

With the Willow Go, say goodbye to cords, tubing, and those dangling bottles that’ll really make you feel like you’re running a milk factory. One of its most appealing features is how truly wearable and hands-free it is.

As someone who works from home, I love the idea of being able to pop them into my bra and move around the house as I please—without being glued to a power outlet. From what I hear, every minute counts for newborn parents, so if I can knock out a couple of household chores when I have downtime (or just trudge to and from the fridge while watching Netflix) I’m all for the freedom.

It’s easy to set up & use.

The Willow Go is equipped with some user-friendly features that make pumping a breeze, especially for us newbies who have no idea what we’re getting ourselves into. The breast pump automatically turns off after 25 minutes (just in case you forget to time it yourself) and features a handy battery life indicator with green, orange, and red colors to show you how much juice is left. Even if you forget to charge it fully, a quick ten-minute boost can give you at least one pump session, which is a lifesaver on hectic days.

Using the Willow Go is also super intuitive. You’ll be able to power it on and off, toggle between stimulation and expression modes, and adjust your suction levels with four easy-to-follow buttons on the pump and also through the companion app. The best part? Unlike many other wearable pumps on the market and electric options, you can individually control each pump and keep track of your session history.

It has plenty of settings that provide more comfort & milk output.

Speaking of different suction settings, the Willow Go really caters to mom’s pumping needs by offering six stimulation levels and nine expression levels. The stimulation mode mimics a baby’s speedy suckling to help initiate milk flow and make the pumping process more comfortable. Then once you’re ready, you can switch to expression mode for longer, stronger pulls that’ll maximize your milk output.

This range can help you find the most comfortable and effective setting during your sessions, especially while you’re still getting the hang of pumping and figuring out what works best for you.

You don’t have to stress about finding your perfect flange size.

More often than not, pumping moms are using the wrong flange size—so much so that one lactation consultant found this to be true in over 90% of her patients (yikes!). Fortunately, the Willow Go is ahead of the game and includes both 21 mm and 24 mm flanges and a flange sizing guide within your kit, so you can easily find your perfect match. This can make all the difference in your comfort, the amount of milk you’re able to pump, and protecting yourself from any potential damage to your breast tissue or nipples.

And if those sizes don’t quite fit, don’t worry! Willow offers even more size inserts, including 13mm, 15mm, 17mm, and 19mm, so you can find the perfect fit. If you happen to misplace the handy chart, Willow has a free backup version online. And if you’re still feeling confused, their solid customer care team can assist with sizing, assembly, and any other questions you might have.

It’s comfortable & discrete.

Willow Go promises that it can fully fit in your bra, but I had a hard time believing it, despite all those TikToks of women pumping at concerts, on airplanes, and in the car. But man was I pleasantly surprised. The sound is much quieter than I expected and its sleek shape fits so naturally against your breast. Since the motor doesn’t stick out the top, I was super confident that I wouldn’t attract any unwanted attention.

Although you don’t need a special bra to hold these pumps in place, I found that a stretchy nursing bra was best. My sports bra and Skims spandex bra were good backups, but I’d need to size up from my pre-pregnancy collection to avoid irritation. Bonus: my boobs looked fuller than ever (cheapest breast enhancement you could ask for!).

It’s accompanied by all the pumping accessories you’ll need when you’re on the go.

Because the Willow Go is wearable and totally hands-free, you can wear it practically anywhere—and you don’t have to worry about the aftermath either. Accessories like the Portable Breast Milk Cooler, Pump Anywhere travel case, and the Travel Cleaning Pack make it simple to pump and store milk when you’re out and about, whether you’re visiting the grandparents or running errands.

Willow’s Find Your Flow Feeding Kit is another game-changing essential for those early days of pumping and feeding. It provides essential products for tackling common breastfeeding challenges, from reusable breast pads to hot and cold breast therapy pads, and comes with free access to a lactation consultation.

But it does require your time for cleaning.

Now, the not-so-fun part: cleaning. The Willow Go has five of its six parts that need regular cleaning—the flanges, the pump diaphragm, the container bowl that holds the milk, the container backing, and the duckbill valve. This can be a bit of a task when you already have a counter full of bottles that need your attention.

The upside is that you can toss all these parts into the top rack of the dishwasher, but if you prefer to wash by hand, it can be a time-consuming process to do every day.

Also, if you’re hoping to cut down on your process by leaning on a steam sterilizer, unfortunately the Willow Go recommends against it, so all parts must be air-dried instead in order to reuse.

The price tag may give you sticker shock.

The Willow Go comes with a hefty price tag—at $349, it can feel like a significant investment. That being said, it’s available as an upgrade option through insurance (with most saving up to 40%!), which can help offset some of the costs. But what really makes Willow worth it is their personalized onboarding process with a Willow Mom Coach that every purchaser receives. For moms just learning the ropes, this guidance and support can really help you get the most out of your pump.

Replacement parts are another consideration, as some moms have reported them frequently being out of stock, but I didn’t encounter this issue.

And there are a few practical things to consider.

While the Willow Go is designed with convenience in mind, there are some practical considerations. It’s not leak-proof due to the opening spout at the top, so you’ll need to be mindful of certain movements—like bending over to pick something up or laying down—to avoid spilling that precious liquid gold. Additionally, since you can’t pump directly into bottles or bags, you’ll have to transfer milk into a storage container after pumping, adding an extra step to the process.

So do the pros outweigh the cons, like all those TikTok moms claim? I’d say yes. The Willow Go breast pump offers plenty of freedom and convenience with features that make sense. Toss in its user-friendly design, on-the-go accessories, and supportive customer care team, and it’s a worthwhile consideration. If you’re a busy mom looking for a hands-free pumping experience, the Willow Go is a top-notch option that’ll make getting through those chaotic days a bit more manageable.

Use code TINYBEANS20 to earn 20% off your Willow Go purchase now through September 30, 2024!

Of course, anything you see on this list (or any others, really) shouldn’t be taken as medical advice. Always run things by your healthcare provider if you have any questions. That said, these postpartum goodies are some of the most tried-and-true out there. From nursing camis that save you some laundry time to cooling pads that soothe your healing body and everything in between, we’ve put together our faves for keeping comfortable, managing pain, taking care of yourself, and even staying organized while you get to know your newest family member. (There are even some great gifts for new moms on this list, so if you’re looking for products to really help out the new mom in your life, we’ve got you covered!).

Frida Mom Instant Ice Maxi Pads

Looking for some major relief? These 2-in-1 cooling and absorbent maxi pads are made with witch hazel (no funky chemicals here) and instantly cool and soothe sensitive bodies following delivery. They're full-coverage, too, to minimize leaks!

Frida Mom Instant Ice Maxi Pads ($18.97)—Buy Here!

Elvie Stride Plus Hands-Free Breast Pump

Hospital-grade performance (a whopping -300 mmHg!) with a hands-free, in-bra design that lets you go anywhere while pumping makes the Elvie Stride a super popular choice among pumping moms. The Stride Plus, includes a 3-in-1 carrying case for moms on the go (aren't we all?).

Elvie Stride Plus Hands-Free Breast Pump ($223.99)—Buy Here!

"The Fourth Trimester" by Kimberly Ann Johnson

Take a deep dive into postpartum care with The Fourth Trimester. This book covers healing on the physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual levels from Kimberly Ann Johnson—doula, postpartum consultant, yoga teacher, body worker, and women’s health care advocate.

"The Fourth Trimester" by Kimberly Ann Johnson ($10.99)—Buy Here!

Thena Sitz Bath Soak

Extra-soothing and can help speed up recovery, this sitz bath soak is extra-gentle. Made with organic coconut oil, organic sweet almond oil, therapeutic lavender, and grapefruit essential oils to deeply hydrate while the fine-grain salt dissolves extra fast so you don't have to wait to relax.

Thena Sitz Bath Soak ($27.59)—Buy Here!

Hydrating Mom Fuel Electrolyte Drink Mix

Listen, new moms. It's vital that you stay hydrated. Of course, that's always true, but it's especially easy to forget when you're nursing, running on less sleep, and healing from labor and delivery. Mom Fuel is formulated for moms, it's caffiene-free and includes lactation support, all in an on-the-go packet. Mix it with a little extra water if you prefer a milder flavor.

Hydrating Mom Fuel Electrolyte Drink Mix ($14.99)—Buy Here!

Bodily Care for Birth Box

Bodily really knocked it out of the park with this box. In collaboration with OB-GYNs, midwives, and lactation experts, the Care for Birth Box is full of 23 must-have products to help support you through the first days, with goodies you'll want to use even after you've recovered.

Bodily Care for Birth Box ($84.00)—Buy Here!

Lansinoh Pain Relief Spray

This 4% lidocaine spray works upside down (genius) and takes the edge off perineal pain. It also includes witch hazel and aloe vera.

Lansinoh Pain Relief Spray ($9.99)—Buy Here!

The Poppy Diaper Purse

The Poppy Diaper Purse is a modern and minimalist take on the diaper bag. It replaces the bulky and big diaper bags that can be a huge pain and instead, includes a mini diaper bag with a dual-purpose design. Divided into two sections, the Poppy has a dedicated baby diaper compartment and a personal purse compartment, too. Multiple zippered and open pocket options, including an elastic pocket for baby wipes! Available in 4 colors, and fun straps (sold separately) to customize yours.

The Poppy Diaper Purse ($160.00)—Buy here!

Daily Harvest New Parent Support Bundle

The New Parent Support Bundle from Daily Harvest helps new moms get all the nutrients they need to support lactation, postpartum healing, and recovery with this selection of ready-to-heat meals curated by the experts at Marma Health. Includes:

• 2 Mango + Greens Smoothies
• 2 Cherry + Almond Smoothies
• 2 Blueberry + Cacao Smoothies
• 2 Cinnamon + Banana Breakfast Bowls
• 2 Blueberry + Lemon Breakfast Bowls
• 2 Red Lentil + Cumin Harvest Bowls
• 2 Hazelnut + Chocolate Bites

Daily Harvest New Parent Support Bundle ($119.99)—Buy Here!

Portable Bidet

If you want, or need, to leave the house during your postpartum recovery, your healing regimen still can't take a backseat. This handy little portable bidet doesn't look like one, but works to effectively keep your postpartum hygiene in check no matter where you are. They also made sure the design mitigates leaks, because that's pretty much the last thing you need right now.

Portable Bidet ($13.99)—Buy Here!

nyssa Fourthwear Postpartum Recovery Underwear

Super soft, belly hugging (read: supportive!) underwear with a dual-layer, 360° pocket design to securely hold ice or heat therapy between the legs, at the site of c-section, and around the back where postpartum recovering bodies need it most. Available in multiple sizes and bundle options (remember what we said about laundry?).

nyssa Fourthwear Postpartum Recovery Underwear ($39.00+)—Buy Here!

Postpartum Wrap

The name of the postpartum game is 'Support' (both physically and mentally), so having a compression wrap like this one on-hand is a great idea. You can adjust it to the level you prefer and wearing a wrap can help speed up your healing!

Postpartum Wrap ($24.97+)—Buy Here!

Mila's Keeper Breastmilk Storage Bundle

For pumping moms on the go, this bundle from Mila's Keeper is perfect. It includes one breastmilk cooler, a glass breastmilk storage bottle, and one ice pack that that fits perfectly in the cooler.

Mila's Keeper Breastmilk Storage Bundle ($68.00)—Buy Here!

Cotton Skin to Skin Top

A cute, comfy top that's perfect for skin-to-skin time with your new addition, hands-free while sitting or reclining. It's super soft and available in 6 colors. Note: This is a garment, not a baby carrier or sling. Always keep hold of baby while standing or moving around.

Cotton Skin to Skin Top ($59.00+)—Buy Here!

Mother Self Care Bundle

This bundle includes five soothing treatments made with clean ingredients: magnesium oil, magnesium soak, body oil, balm, and an aromatherapy inhaler, all tucked into a cute pouch.

Mother Self Care Bundle ($120.00)—Buy Here!

Charcoal Donut Pillow

Back relief, hemorrhoid relief, and reduced perineum pressure are all in the cards when you have a solid donut pillow.

Charcoal Donut Pillow ($34.99)—Buy Here!

Shapermint Essentials Embrace Maternity Collection

For every stage of motherhood, this size-inclusive collection (S-4XL) covers every body. The Embrace Collection keeps moms comfortable and supported from pregnancy into postpartum. Includes a wire-free nursing bra, clip-down nursing cami, belly support shorts, and belly support leggings. 

Shapermint Essentials Embrace Maternity Collection ($25.99+)—Buy Here!

Frida Mom Witch Hazel Perineal Cooling Pad Liners

Witch hazel is the hero product of postpartum recovery, and these cooling liners cover most maxi pads to reduce swelling and speed up healing.

Frida Mom Witch Hazel Perineal Cooling Pad Liners ($8.79)—Buy Here!

Maternity Hospital Bag Bundle

A super-soft, easy-fit pajama top with lift up nursing access, a comfy over bump pajama bottoms with a tapered leg, a maternity and nursing nightie with snaps at the front for easy nursing and skin-to-skin snuggles, and a cozy matching robe to keep you warm, covered up when you want to be, and excellent for busy hospitals or at home when you have visitors. 

Maternity Hospital Bag Bundle ($159.00)—Buy Here!

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We’ve put together a guide that makes picking out the best gifts easy. Whether she’s your wife, friend, sister, daughter, coworker, or another loved one, these thoughtful and helpful presents are fantastic on their own, or combined with goodies for the new little one. Or, snag a few that she’ll love from this list and put together a sure-to-be-appreciated box or basket. Whatever you choose, these Mother’s Day gifts for new moms make sure they feel loved!

COS Oversized Crossbody

For new moms, the days of tiny clutches and wristlets are on pause, but that doesn't mean style is out the window! This amazing oversized crossbody has room for everything mom needs and then some and it's perfectly lightweight. It's crafted from 100% recycled fabric in the signature pillowy texture and offered in a vibrant cobalt-blue shade along with several other great hues.

COS Oversized Crossbody ($135.00)—Buy Here!

Emerson Caftan in Organic Rainbow Stripe

We're pretty sure we can thank Palm Royale for bringing back the caftan, and thank it we do. Caftans are the epitome of comfort and they're absolutely not just for around the house. Running errands, vacation, pool days, travel, after work, out of the shower...okay, maybe we'll buy two.

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'Great British Bake Off' Coloring Book

Official Bake Off illustrator, Tom Hovey (he does all the illustrations for the show itself!) created this 90 page coloring book that's ideal for any GBBO enthusiast. New moms think about more than enough; this is a great way for her to unwind.

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Mother Patch Trucker Hat by mother. hats

Who has time to wash their hair every day? Not us, and definitely not new moms. Help her keep it out of the way on no-wash days with one of these adorable trucker hats from mother.hats.

Mother Patch Trucker Hat by mother. hats ($38.00)—Buy Here!

Evereden Belly Serum Experience Set

Ideal for pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond, this serum set smells incredible: Damask rose and pear or peony, raspberry, and peach, and it nourishes and soothes mom's sensitive belly after all the good work it did. It absorbs fast, feels amazing, and the bottles are so pretty, too!

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Classic Happy Face Bracelet by Lisa Gozlan

Although we're well-aware that the adjustment to new baby mode isn't always perfectly easy, this Y2K-vibey stretch bracelet is a great reminder to smile whenever the mood strikes your favorite new mom. Available in silver and gold finishes.

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BAGGU Puffy Cooler Bag

Whether she's returning to the office or managing her personal/professional life from home, this adorable cooler bag is a must. Encourage her to keep snacks, eye patches, breastfeeding supplies, and (of course) water all stocked up in this roomy bag that she can take with her to work or from room to room in her house as she goes about her day. She won't have to keep heading to the kitchen for provisions either way!

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Soft Suede Clogs

This viral style clog is popular for a reason; they're wildly comfortable. Of course, they're also versatile for year-round wear, are really lightweight, easy, and come in multiple colors. But the most important part? They're. So. Comfortable. They'll give the new mom in your life a go-to pair of shoes she can wear around the house and run errands in, plus they can easily accommodate any leftover foot swelling (we've been there!).

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Shiatsu Neck and Back Massager

Almost 60k Amazon reviewers can't be wrong. This massager works her neck, back, lower back, and more with adjustable intensity, too!

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Jeni's Pint Club Ice Cream Subscription

Our shopping editor swears Jeni's is the best ice cream on the planet, and we're pretty sure every woman deserves an ice cream subscription. Every month, they'll receive a curated selection of four flavors (often before they’re on sale to the public!) delivered directly to their doorstep. Guaranteed frozen delivery? Yep, that's included, too.

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Jin Soon Aura #2 Nail Color Trio

Jin Soon is known for her line of celebrity-loved and deeply-pigmented 21-free nail colors. She proves that nail polish can be free of the gross stuff and long-lasting. This trio includes 3 lucious shades that inspire calm, joy, and comfort (though there are multiple colors available). It's the little things that help new moms feel a little more like themselves.

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Beach & Picnic Blanket by Sunnylife

With Mother's Day arriving as we head into the summer, this beach and picnic blanket makes a perfect gift! It'll help encourage her to take some time to relax when she can, and it also works really well as a play space for the baby at home or out.

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Sofia Prism Cocktail Watch Ring from PASCAL

Oh-so unique and easy to wear, this watch ring has a beautiful pink face and is surrounded by lab-grown gemstones for some extra glitter. Available in 3 different color combinations.

Sofia Prism Cocktail Watch Ring from PASCAL ($105.00)—Buy Here!

BrüMate Era 40oz

Keeping hydrated is important, but even more so when you're a new mom. We love a good tumbler, but the Era 40oz is totally leakproof, with a cup holder-friendly base, attached straw, and the ability to keep drinks cool up to 24 hours! Available in a ton of different oclors.

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Couch Cup Holder Tray

This couch cup holder tray is so genius, we're mad we didn't think of it first. With a versatile cup holder that keeps your beverages secure and the try prevents your remote and phone from slipping between the couch cushions. Available in 6 colors.

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Leatherology Long Crossbody Phone Pocket

The Crossbody Phone Pocket from Leatherology is sleek and easy, making it ideal for travel, for throwing into a larger purse, and keeping her necessities together. Available in multiple color and customization options!

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andSons Signature Collection Chocolates

Giving mom chocolate isn't new, but these stunning ganaches and pralines from the andSons Signature Collection are more like edible art. Even the box features the work of LA artist, Matt Murphy. Available in boxes of 6-84 pieces (drool).

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Rattan Candle by Otherland

Otherland's toxin-free candles let you feel comfortable burning in your home (especially important to new moms), and they're so pretty! We're partial to their Rattan candle—a blend of sandalwood, golden amber, and warm musk. 

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Dusen Dusen Stripe Terry Bathrobe in Sea Stripe

Designer Ellen Van Dusen doubles down on her love of stripes with this cotton-terry robe that's the perfect example of dopamine dressing! Moms definitely need to start their day with some major comfort she can wear in all seasons. Available in two colorways, but this 'Sea Stripe' combo is really speaking to us right now.

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grace & stella Restoring Eye Masks

If they're good enough for Jessica Alba and Leona Lewis, we're sold. And actually, grace & stella Eye Masks are a favorite of our group chat. They brighten, restore, and soothe fatigued under eyes and feel amazing. Keep them in the fridge for extra de-puffing!

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Porto's Favorites Bake at Home Bundle

Porto's Bakery pastry chefs create bake at home goodies that are super easy and beyond delicious. The Porto's Favorites bundle includes their Cheese Roll, Potato Ball, Chicken Empanada, and Refugiado (guava and cheese strudel) so mom can have fresh comfort food treats that taste like homemade.

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Ello Campy Vacuum Insulated Travel Mug

Moms around the world know all about cold coffee. This 16oz vacuum-insulated stainless steel travel mug is designed to keep drinks cold up to 10 hours and hot for 5 hours. Car-friendly and completely leakproof, the handle includes a cork inlay that makes it comfortable to hold, too. Available in multiple colors.

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Luckily, Dr. Candice Jones, a board-certified, Florida-based pediatrician is here to clue us in. In addition to being both a doctor and a mom, Dr. Jones hosts the KIDing Around With Dr. Candice podcast and is the author of High Five Discipline: Positive Parenting for Happy, Health, Well-Behaved Kids. The next time you take your baby (or toddler) to the doctor, be sure to ask them about these six critically important topics.

Safe Sleep Practices

Sleep—rightfully so—is one the main concerns new parents have. Not only are parents downright exhausted, but the baby is, too. While many new parents focus on simply getting a little (or ideally, a lot) more shut-eye, it’s critical that parents understand and practice safe sleep practices. Dr. Jones reminds us that we must work to prevent SIDS, also known as sudden infant death syndrome, and she wishes parents would ask more about it.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) offers SIDS-prevention guidelines. First, infants should always be placed on their backs. Their sleep space should be a “crib, bassinet, or portable play yard” that contains a “firm, flat mattress and a fitted sheet.” Swings and carseats are not suitable safe sleep spaces. The baby’s sleep space should be free of any “loose blankets, pillows, stuffed toys, bumpers, and other soft items.” When possible, breastfeed the baby and “avoid smoking.”

Water Safety

As summer quickly approaches, you may want to enjoy the water with your little one, be it a sprinkler, a swimming pool, or a local splash pad. Don’t forget about bath time, too. The goal, of course, says Dr. Jones, is to “prevent drowning.” However, any outdoor water activities also bring on the risk of your baby getting overheated, dehydrated, or sunburned. Remember to ask your pediatrician about safe water practices in every sense of the phrase.

The AAP reminds parents that babies can drown in a mere one to two inches of water. Never, ever leave your little one unattended in or near water. Gather bath time supplies and have them within reach prior to bathing your baby, and always check the water temperature prior to bathing to prevent burns. Always check to make sure bathrooms (think, toilets—a bowl of water), swimming pools, and even large containers (examples: pet water bowl and coolers) are secure. Younger babies are immobile, but as they get closer to the toddler years, they become very water-curious.

Related: 25 Parent-Approved Tips for Taking Baby to the Beach

After-Hours Illness

Any experienced parent will tell you that kids rarely get sick when it’s convenient for parents. Whether your kid spikes a fever on a weekend, a holiday, or late into the night, Dr. Jones wants parents to be prepared. So when exactly do you cal the pediatrician after hours? The threshold to call the after-hours line is different from doctor to doctor, so be sure to ask questions like: What (fever) temperature concerns you? What other symptoms warrant a call, such as lethargy or vomiting? What fever and/or symptoms require us to go straight to urgent care or the ER? Bottom line: When in doubt, make the call.

Johns Hopkins Medicine shares these guidelines for parents. Take your child to the ER when “your child less than 2 months old” has a fever of “100.4 degrees Fahrenheit” or above. A suspected broken bone, a child hitting their head (and showing signs of passing out or losing consciousness), a seizure, dehydration, fast and heavy breathing, or “gasping for air,” and any “gaping cuts” warrant a trip to the emergency room.

Related: 5 Things ER Pediatricians Would Never Let Their Kids Do

Growth and Development

Dr. Jones says that one question all new parents should ask their child’s pediatrician is: Is my child developing and growing well? She forewarns that parents shouldn’t “assume your child is doing well in these areas if your doctor doesn’t mention it.” As the parent, you know your child best. Dr. Jones points out that “early detection and intervention of developmental delays and any growth concerns should be addressed.”

She also shares that these can be “overlooked in busy clinics,” so parents have to be and stay aware of their child’s growth (height, weight, and head circumference) and development. One of the best ways to do this is take a notebook and pen to every appointment and take notes, especially if your child’s doctor’s office doesn’t use a digital record-keeping medical system that patients can access online.

Carseat Safety

One of the most confusing and mind-boggling issues new parents face is carseat safety. What was considered safe and acceptable when we parents were children is no longer ok. There are two issues to make sure you ask the pediatrician about. The first is to ask is: Can I leave my child in their car seat—and for how long? Remember, never, ever leave your child in an unattended car. The second question to ask is: Which carseat is best for my child, and what are the guidelines for making sure my child is properly secured in the seat? The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) offers this detailed response.

Did you know there are four different types of carseats ranging from an infant seat to a simple seatbelt? The NHTSA’s car seat finder tool allows you to enter your child’s birthday, height, and weight to help you choose the best car seat. They also remind parents that it is critical to “choose and use the right care seat correctly every time your child is in the car” to keep them safe.

Parenting Quandaries

Dr. Jones reassures parents that “nothing should be off-limits” when talking to your child’s doctor about “the health and well-being of your child.” Questions about discipline, attachment, speech and language, eye and ear health, skin concerns, and even creating boundaries should all be fair game. You can feel reassured that your kid’s pediatrician may have resource recommendations, and they have the ability to make referrals for speech evaluations, for example.

No matter how many books promise to be an all-inclusive guide to raising a baby or toddler, the research and standards are continuously changing. This is why it’s important to not brush aside your “silly question” or concern and approach your child’s pediatrician with honesty and a willingness to learn. A great doctor will gladly educate you, and when they cannot, they’ll offer you a resource or referral. Of course, you can also access Dr. Jones’ podcast or read her book for ideas, but always bring up specific-to-your-child concerns with your doctor.

Welcome to the rollercoaster ride of motherhood, where each day is a whirlwind of sleepless nights, a flood of emotions you never knew existed, and baby coos you wish you could play on repeat.

If you’re a new mom, congratulations on this incredible adventure you’re embarking on. Whether you’re just days, weeks, or months in, we can only imagine how the arrival of your tiny bean has left you feeling—unparalleled joy with a side of “oh gosh, I’m lost in a tornado of diapers and baby bottles”?

Though, it’s within this bittersweet chaos that you can easily forget the most crucial passenger on this wild ride…you. Yes, you, the superhero who brought a small human into the world.

As your friend, your confidant, and your friendly voice of reason, we’re here to help you navigate the postpartum journey (because you don’t need to do it alone!). From taking care of your mental health to recognizing when you need professional assistance and everything in between, let’s dive into our top postpartum self-care tips.

1. Take Care of You!

There’s no denying that parents put themselves on the back burner when it comes to their children. While you can’t help but make your little ones your number one priority, refusing to dedicate time for self-care can affect your overall parenting.

With your body requiring extra care and nourishment upon giving birth, it’s important to stay hydrated (is that water bottle on your nightstand empty?), eat a well-balanced diet rich in nutrients, and get some hard-earned rest—we know, it’s easier said than done! Incorporating gentle exercises into your routine can also expedite your recovery. It could be as simple as light walks or pelvic floor exercises, but the key is to move at your pace.

2. Keep an Eye Out for Signs of Postpartum Depression

Motherhood brings forth a lot of change, including a spectrum of ever-changing emotions. While some shades are less joyous than others, it’s crucial to recognize if you’re feeling trapped in a prolonged shadow of sadness, hopelessness, or worthlessness.

These feelings are correlated to postpartum depression, a type of mood disorder that affects up to 15% of women after childbirth. The medical condition, which is often mislabeled as “baby blues,” can develop within the first few weeks to months after giving birth. It’s also marked by other serious symptoms, like a lack of interest in once enjoyable activities, the inability to connect with your infant, and thoughts of self-harm. Acknowledge your feelings during this transitional period, and if you find yourself experiencing any of these symptoms, seek immediate help.

3. Seek Professional Help When Needed

Your mental health as a new parent is vital. Not only does it play a direct role in how you navigate the unpredictability of parenthood, but it also impacts the quality of your relationship with your baby. If you’re feeling like you need an outlet to work through what you’re experiencing, that’s okay. Know that seeking professional assistance is a courageous step—and one that should be met with praise and support.

With BetterHelp, an online therapy service, you can take appointments right from the comforts of your home, and on your schedule. That means you have a licensed therapist at your fingertips, available through text, phone, or video, all wrapped up in an affordable monthly subscription.

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4. Find Your Village

Moms, we know you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, but navigating this new era shouldn’t be an act you bear alone. Finding a support system can be paramount for both your mental and emotional well-being, whether it’s your significant other, family, friends, or a mommy support group. Surrounding yourself with comfort, laughter, and shared experiences can be the safety net that’ll uplift you when you need it most.

5. Carve Out “Me Time”

Oftentimes, it’s easy for moms to fully embrace their role as caretakers, devoting all of their time and energy to their new bundle of joy. But it’s important to not lose sight of who you were before children, and to not forget about what brings you happiness and relaxation in the process.

Devote time throughout each week that puts your first, so you can maintain your identity outside of motherhood. Reconnect with hobbies you love, or indulge in a guilty pleasure—maybe a TV series that’s just for you. This time is crucial for recharging and preserving your mental and emotional health.

6. Recognize (& Celebrate!) How Far You’ve Come

With so much always happening at once, it’s easy to overlook the small victories of parenting. Take a step back and celebrate all that you’ve achieved and how much your baby has developed—because of you! Whether it’s your baby sleeping through the night or you mastered the art of one-handed diaper changes, these small wins contribute to your growth as a mother. Acknowledging them can give you the feel-good emotions you need to keep going.

7. Set Realistic Expectations

Hooray, you’ve been promoted to the new role of mom, but like any new job, this period comes with some adjustments and level setting. Set realistic expectations of what you can and cannot accomplish in one day to gift yourself some much-needed compassion and grace.

Consider simplifying your daily routines to manage the demands of caring for a newborn. Rather than going to the grocery store, try ordering your meals weekly from a meal delivery service. If you’re overwhelmed by neglected household chores, tackle one area of the house every few days or divide and conquer with your partner. Every day may not be picture-perfect, and that’s more than okay.

8. Nurture Your Relationship with Your Significant Other

Amidst the sleepless nights and never-ending sea of bottles, don’t forget to nurture the bond with your partner. Communication is key and understanding each other’s needs in this new chapter of life is a must. Even simple gestures can go a long way in maintaining a strong and supportive relationship.

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